One of the most important lessons I learned on my Beta-to-Alpha transformation journey was this:
Women don’t test men to be annoying — they test to see if you’re real.
They test to see if you’re grounded, masculine, composed, confident… or secretly insecure and fake.
I used to fail these tests constantly. Not because I was a bad guy, but because I didn’t understand what was happening. I thought women were being unfair, difficult, or “too emotional.” The truth was much simpler:
She was checking if I was a man she could trust, respect, and follow.
And I wasn’t. Not yet.
This article will break down exactly why women test men, how I used to fail, how I learned to pass every test without even trying, and how you can do the same.
What Are “Shit Tests” (And Why Women Do Them)
A “shit test” is any behavior from a woman designed to check your internal strength.
It can be a joke, a comment, a small argument, a question, or even silence. Most men panic when they hear that word, but the reality is this:
A woman’s test is simply her way of feeling if you are stable enough to handle her feminine energy.
Some examples include:
- “Why are you wearing that?”
- “Are you really going to the gym again?”
- “My ex never did that…”
- “You’re so serious all the time.”
- Suddenly acting cold to see if you chase
- Pushing your boundaries to see if you hold them
It’s not about manipulation. It’s biology. Women test subconsciously to identify men who are mentally strong, emotionally grounded, and capable of protecting themselves and her.
The tests don’t stop — but strong men pass them effortlessly.
How I Used to Fail Every Test (My Old Beta Behavior)
Before my transformation, I handled these moments like a boy, not a man.
I would:
- Get defensive (“What do you mean by that?”)
- Seek her approval (“Do you think I should change?”)
- Explain myself too much
- Overreact emotionally
- Try to please her just to keep the peace
- Chase her validation when she pulled away
Every time, the result was the same:
She lost respect.
She lost attraction.
She pulled away.
I thought I was being nice. I thought I was being understanding. I thought I was doing the “right thing.”
But a man who abandons his frame is a man a woman cannot trust.
And trust is the foundation of desire.
How Gym, Boxing & Discipline Rebuilt My Masculine Frame
Everything changed when I rebuilt myself from the ground up.
I fixed my testosterone levels (full story here), started lifting, became more confident in my body, looked better, gained presence, and eventually started boxing.
Boxing especially changed my life:
- I learned to stay calm under pressure
- I stopped reacting emotionally
- I became grounded and stable
- I walked with a fighter’s posture and confidence
- I learned that being hit isn’t the end of the world — in fact, it wakes you up
When a woman tested me after that, my response came from confidence, not insecurity.
I wasn’t rattled.
I didn’t get emotional.
I didn’t chase.
I didn’t explain myself.
I didn’t break frame.
I simply stayed grounded — and THAT is what made women respect me instantly.
They could sense the difference. My energy had changed. My presence changed.
How Real Masculine Men Pass Every Test Without Trying
You don’t pass a woman’s test by thinking of clever responses or using tactics.
You pass by being a man with:
- Unshakeable frame
- Purpose and mission (read: Why Every Man Needs a Mission)
- Non-reactivity
- Strong body & strong mind (read: Bodymaxing)
- Healthy detachment
- Self-respect & boundaries
Here’s the golden rule:
Women test your emotions. Men with strong frame don’t get emotionally dragged into feminine storms.
They remain calm.
Present.
Grounded.
Unbothered.
That’s what makes a woman lean in closer.
Examples of How I Respond Now (Masculine Frame in Action)
Test: “Why are you going to the gym again?”
Response: “Because I like progress.”
Test: “You seem different today.”
Response: “Probably because I’m focused.”
Test: Acting distant out of nowhere
Response: I give her space and continue my mission.
Test: “I don’t know if I’m in the mood to see you tonight.”
Response: “No problem. Another time.”
Test: “Why did you say that?”
Response: “Because I meant it.”
Short. Clean. Grounded.
No emotions. No explanation.
Just masculine certainty.
The Real Reason Women Test Men
It’s not to annoy you.
It’s not to manipulate you.
It’s not to make your life harder.
Women test men because they crave a man they can trust with their feminine energy.
A woman can only surrender to a man she respects.
And respect comes from masculine stability.
If you collapse under pressure, she collapses too.
If you stay solid, her desire grows.
Final Thoughts — Become the Man Who Doesn’t Need to Try
The best men don’t “prepare” for tests.
They live in a way that makes passing them automatic.
Build your body.
Fix your testosterone.
Get your money up.
Learn to fight.
Develop discipline.
Live with purpose.
Stop chasing.
When you do these things, women feel it instantly. They know they’re in the presence of a man.
And that’s why they test you.
Not to break you — but to feel you.
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